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5 Ways To Have More Sex In 2020

So many New Year’s resolutions have one thing in common. Whether it’s eating a nutritionally balanced diet, exercising regularly, beginning a meditation practice, or participating in “Dry January,” many of the most popular fresh-start pledges are focused on improving your health. But one aspect of wellness is often overlooked: your sex life.

Yet sex is a vital part of wellbeing. It has many health benefits, from relieving stress to reducing period cramps to even, potentially, boosting your immune system. Plus, it feels amazing. If your resolution is to have more of it in 2020, you’re not alone. And we can help.

Schedule Sex

One way to make sure you have more sex? Put it on your calendar. If you’ve got a partner or partners who are on board with the idea, set aside an hour or two each week —or every other week, or once a month — for fooling around. It may sound boring and trite, but it's a surefire way to keep sex on your minds and in your lives. Plus, it will give you something to look forward to. Don’t have a regular partner? Set aside time for masturbation — you can even make it part of your self-care routine.

Explore Responsive Desire

If the main reason you’re not having sex is you just don’t feel in the mood, try exploring responsive desire. In her book Come As You Are, sex educator Emily Nagoski differentiates between “spontaneous desire” (wanting sex out of the blue) and “responsive desire” (wanting sex in response to something, such as making out with your partner or reading erotica). According to Nagoski’s research, 55% of the population is more prone to “responsive desire” than “spontaneous desire.” If the idea of sex sounds just meh, try kissing, cuddling, or watching a sexy movie and see how you feel. 

Use Lube

If you don’t regularly use lube, buy a bottle. Lube has many benefits: It can reduce pain and irritation during any kind of sex (both penetrative and non-penetrative) and help minimize the risk of condom breakage. It also feels great; we advocate using it for partnered sex or masturbation. Along with making sex more enjoyable, if you're having a sex marathon, lube will help minimize chafing — meaning you'll ready for round two sooner.

Set A Goal, Or Make A List

Do you usually stick to the same sex positions and want to try something new? Are you interested in exploring a fantasy? Take some time to reflect on how you want your sex life to change in 2020. Try making a “yes/no/maybe” list (either solo or with a partner), or choosing a goal you can work towards — such as having anal sex, getting into bondage, or becoming an expert sexter.

Redefine “Sex”

Remember, sex isn’t just penetrative. Oral sex? Sex. (It's in the name!) Fingering? Sex. Handjobs? Sex. Masturbation? Solo sex. Broad your view of what “counts” as sex, and you might start having a lot more of it.

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