Njoy’s Pure Wand Might Be The Greatest Sex Toy Of All Time
If you think about the quintessential sex toy—one that sex experts go ga-ga over, one that constantly shows up in feminist porn, one that lots of people would describe as magical— you’re probably thinking about a vibrator.
Sure, vibrators can be magical (especially vibrators like the We-Vibe Nova and the Le Wand Petite), but—PSA—there are so many more ah-mazing sex toys besides your trusty vibe. And this one is so special, you likely wouldn't find it if you were just searching through page after page of sex toys online.
Lucky for you (and your hands), that search ends here. Meet the Njoy Pure Wand, a stainless steel, curved dildo that manager of New York City's The Pleasure Chest Ryan DiMartino (who uses they/them pronouns) says is "one of, if not THE, greatest sex toys of all time."
Why People Love The Njoy Pure Wand
- It’s heavy
- It has a curved design
- It has round ends
- It has a small side and a large side
- It’s made of stainless steel
People are generally surprised when DiMartino suggests trying the Pure Wand because, they say, "it doesn’t do anything on it’s own—it doesn’t thrust, it doesn’t vibrate." How could a toy that stays still be so great? It’s smartly designed to hit your G-spot or P-spot (aka, the prostate) and has enough heft to apply ridiculously satisfying pressure—that's how.
"I wasn’t particularly into G-spot play when I first started working at The Pleasure Chest," says DiMartino. "But then a bunch of coworkers were all really hyping [the Pure Wand] up to me, saying, 'You need to try this thing.'" Now, DiMartino is the person hyping the Pure Wand to friends, sexual partners, and pretty much anyone who walks into The Pleasure Chest.
They've become such a die-hard fan that the Pure Wand always makes an appearance at DiMartino's "Squirtshop" (yes, that’s a workshop that teaches people how to squirt). "It’s probably the single best thing for learning how to squirt, second to understanding how the process works," says DiMartino.
Squirting, also known as "female ejaculation," is all about applying pressure to the G-spot. First, you need to be aroused enough for the G-spot, which is a sponge-like tissue, to swell. Then, you need to apply constant pressure in a motion that pulls down. "The angle and weight of the Pure Wand are able to do that in a way that other toys won’t," they say.
Even if squirting isn’t your goal, the Pure Wand is still an awesome toy to add to your collection. It has two differently sized ends, one pretty small (less than an inch) and one larger (about one and a half inches), which makes it a good toy for both people who haven’t played with penetration much and for those who like penetration a lot. "If you’re looking to explore penetration again, the small side is very small, and it can create the same stretching effect as with dilators," explains DiMartino. You can work your way up from the smaller side to the larger side.
You can use it to work out muscle kinks, too. "It’s so heavy and smooth that I like to throw it over my shoulder and hook it into my shoulder blade for a massage every once in a while," says DiMartino.
Where It Falls Flat
- It’s heavy
- It’s made for internal play only (aka, it doesn’t vibrate)
It almost goes without saying, but just to be clear: If you know you don’t like penetration, or you need the buzz of a vibrator to get off, the Pure Wand is not the toy for you. At $72+, it’s probably not worth the investment if you know you’ll only be using it as a back massager.
You may also want to avoid this sex toy if you have arthritis or a disability that affects your grip or arm strength. The Pure Wand is a lot heavier than most other toys—it's made of stainless steel, after all. That means it weighs about one and a half pounds, which doesn't sound like much, until you’re holding onto it for 15 minutes while trying to build up an orgasm. This can take a serious toll on your arm, especially if your goal is learning how to squirt. "If squirting is not something that happens naturally for you, then you may need to explore for quite some time," advises DiMartino. "So the Pure Wand may not be ideal for people who have a hard time holding something weighty." (Fair.)
The Game-Changing Features
The design: The exaggerated curve of the Pure Wand, combined with its bulbous ends, basically makes this toy a magnet for internal orgasms. "I’ve taken this toy on [sex] dates and had friends try it," says DiMartino. "It’s the cause of a lot of people’s first internal orgasm."
Most women have trouble orgasming from internal stimulation alone. And while the Pure Wand doesn't promise it'll help you have an internal orgasm with absolutely no clit-touching, it can help you work up to it. "A lot of folks with clits need external stimulation or at least external warming up," says DiMartino. "You can’t just take the Pure Wand home, lay down, insert it, and expect a good experience." Like any type of penetrative sex, you’ll need to be properly aroused first, which will likely involve your clit0ris.
To make the Pure Wand work best for you, you’ll need to get fully aroused, use plenty of lube, and practice. "The more you try, the more likely it is that later, having an internal orgasm alone might work," says DiMartino. "The pure wand, once you’re turned on, is better for internal orgasms because it’s so curvy, so bulbous, so heavy, and so smooth."
The stainless steel: Most sex toys are made of silicone, which is wonderful, hygienic, and often feels good. The Pure Wand is different because it’s made from a solid metal, meaning it's a great conductor of hot and cold. That makes it the perfect toy for temperature play—a kind of sex that’s all about heating things up or cooling them down.
You can stick your wand in the freezer to make it cold, or put it in a glass of hot water to warm it up. DiMartino suggests warming the wand up if you’re planning to use it during period sex or menstrual masturbation. "The warmth of the toy can help your muscles relax," they say. That, plus the intensity of an orgasm, can wash your menstrual cramps away (hallelujah!).
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The smooth texture: Another plus of the stainless steel: It creates way less friction than a silicone toy would, and that makes the experience hella smooth. "I had a baby, and I tore while giving birth," says DiMartino. After that, they were nervous about having any kind of penetrative sex because they didn’t want anything to catch on their scar. "The Pure Wand was the first thing I started using again for penetration after giving birth," they recall. "The weight of the stainless steel actually helped break up some of the scar tissue through internal massage, and it was so smooth that I didn’t need to worry about friction that could cause further tearing."
Even if you’ve never given birth, you'll definitely appreciate the smooth texture—and immediately feel the difference between the Pure Wand and your silicone toys. But remember, even though it’s smooth, using lube will make it feel even better.
The bottom line: While the Njoy’s Pure Wand doesn't vibrate, adding it to your toy chest might just be the key to having your most intense orgasm ever.