It Turns Out Adult Virgins Have A Real Reason To Feel Judged
In shocking news, society has more opinions on our choices involving sexual activity (sarcasm game strong). A new study published in The Journal of Sex Research focused on 560 heterosexual adults between the ages of 18 to 71, and found that sexually inexperienced people (defined as “the absence of vaginal penetrative intercourse”) of both genders feel stigmatized for being virgins. And, sadly, their feelings are valid.
RELATED: Virgins Until Marriage: How Women Who Waited Feel About Their Choice
The study revealed that sexually inexperienced people are not as highly desired by relationship partners, even if the person is also a virgin. And virgins rate their own personal attractiveness lower than those who have had sex.
Sign up for Women's Health's new newsletter, So This Happened, to get the day’s trending stories and health studies.
The average age of first-time sex for adults in the U.S. is 17 years old, and 90 percent of people ages 22 to 24 have had sex. Plus, pre-marital sex is highly common (75 percent of 20-year-olds have done it before saying “I do”), illustrating that chastity is no longer highly likely, or desirable. In fact, it moved from 10th most important quality in a partner to 17th from 1939 to 1996. Our guess is that it’s even lower now in 2016, 20 years later.
Let’s put this in perspective. In the same era that we are trying to fight slut-shaming, society is telling us that not having enough sexual experience is also a bad thing. What?! Who’s to say what the correct amount of sexual activity or sexual partners is? Not us! The takeaway from all of this: You keep doing you—or whomever else is DTF.