Battle Of The Apps: Tinder Vs Bumble
It’s no secret that the dating game has changed. Instead of meeting people around town, through friends, or at events, many are gathering their best photos and thinking of the most enticing way to describe themselves in 300 words or less, swiping left or right on hundreds of hopefuls; it’s the era of the dating apps.
Some of us still cling to the old-fashioned way of meeting people out, striking up a conversation, and if the chemistry’s right, asking if they’d like to go out sometime. That’s exactly how I’ve been with dating, but in this technological era that we find ourselves living in, face-to-face contact has to compete with the endless sea of phone screens. So, if you can’t beat them, might as well see what all the hubbub is about, right? I decided to experiment a bit with two popular dating apps: Tinder and Bumble. I wanted to see what the differences were, the benefits, and if either app was right for me. As similar as they seem from a glance, the differences are clear.
BUILDING YOUR PROFILE:
On Tinder, you can match with as many people as you want in a day, and if you make a connection, you can choose to start a chat, or keep “playing.” Navigation seems simple; swipe left if there’s no chance in hell, right if they have potential, and if you’re really feeling someone, swipe up to super like them. The super like screwed me over. I was trying to look through people’s pictures by swiping up, forgetting that I had to click on the first image in order to see the rest. So, I ended up super liking people when I super didn’t. The cool part is that you can delete your matches at anytime, so if you made the same mistakes I did, you kind of get a re-do. These matches get stored in your connections and will stay there until the end of time (or until you delete your profile). Either person can make the first move. Usually, the guy ended up sending the first message, which was fine… at first. It’s easy to forget that you’re swiping through actual people and not just profiles. Tinder was STRESSING me out since so many people were talking to me at once. Replying turned into a chore more than anything else. Some guys literally seemed to be on it at all times. I would say “ain’t nobody got time for that,” but apparently some do. However, I don’t. Overall: 2.5/5 stars.
Bumble is similar to Tinder in the regard that you can match with as many people as you want in a day. The difference though, is that the girls HAVE to make the first move, and they only have 24 hours to do so before the connection disappears forever. The pressure was for sure ON. Trying to come up with something clever as an opener proved to be harder than I imagined. What was I supposed to say? Just saying “hey, what’s up,” didn’t seem like enough, but cheesy pick-up lines didn’t seem to be the way to go either. Needless to say, I have a new found admiration for the guys brave enough to initiate a conversation with a pretty girl. Although it felt like I faced rejection a little bit more on Bumble, it was actually refreshing to have control over the first move. It shows confidence, allows you to talk to way less people at a time, and you’re more likely to be messaging people you’ll for sure be interested in. Plus, it seemed like the guys on Bumble weren’t always on it, waiting for a reply like on Tinder, so I felt like I could go at my own pace, giving me room to breathe. Overall: 4/5 stars.
There seemed to be an endless amount of guys on Tinder. Both apps have over one million users, but it seemed like Tinder literally was its own little community. A lot of the people that I matched with messaged me often. I felt overwhelmed when they would reply a second time before I had a chance to. The worst was when they would watch my location change, and when I was close enough, they would want to go get a spontaneous drink. That was too weird for me, it felt almost stalker-ish. Also, most of them were quite boring. I know it’s hard to convey your entire self through an online profile, but I didn’t download these apps for half-assed small talk. Finally though, I did find someone who I could banter with, make jokes to, and actually wanted to meet. We went out on a date to have a few drinks, he walked me back to my car and that was that. He was nice and I’m glad I met him, but the flame on that Tinder connection was more of candle size than bonfire. Overall: 3.5/5 stars.
I don’t know what it’s like when a guy tries to make a Bumble account, but it seems as if there’s a beauty requirement. Almost EVERYONE was gorgeous. Like, jaw-dropping, didn’t-hear-a-word-you-said-because-I-was-too-busy-staring ATTRACTIVE. I didn’t think I was even close to the same league as these guys. Luckily though, I was able to nab a few matches. Since it seemed like the guys on Bumble were more enthralled in their lives than in hooking up, the conversations were slow moving. The responses were usually more thoughtful because of the slower speed, so there was way less small talk and a lot more conversating. Still, no one really WOWED me. There was one guy though, who’s pictures didn’t really show his face, but instead, things he liked to do. He was rock climbing, in a shark tank, and saving a giant stingray on the beach. Right away, I felt a connection to him. We wrote paragraphs to each other like we had been friends for years. Out of anyone on either app, I knew this could be my winner. We went out and never had a dull moment. The conversations were fluid, the chemistry was crazy visible; we even had a passer by comment on how cute we were! I couldn’t believe how well it went. Needless to say, I will see this guy again. Overall: 4.5/5 stars.
The clear winner of the two was Bumble. It was more my speed, the guys seemed to be more into their lives than their genitals, and I learned a new sense of confidence having to make the first move. It was difficult for me at first to admit that I wanted to try dating apps. I’ve been single for a while and enjoying every minute of it, but we all get to that point when we’re lying in bed alone that well… we wish someone was there. So, I took the plunge. Although, I got lucky and met someone that I really like, I ended up deleting both apps. I didn’t want to devote what little free time I do have trolling profiles for some forced connection. It just wasn’t for me, but it could be for you! So don’t knock it until you’ve tried it. You never know who you may just meet.