Kim Kardashian Explains Why Her Surrogacy Experience Isn'T The "Easy Way Out"
While some women love being pregnant and can’t wait to have a bun in the oven again, for the rest of us expecting a baby comes with its share of discomforts (heartburn, nausea), challenges (getting out of bed in the first trimester…and again in the third) and anxieties (is everything okay in there?). But after having gone through pregnancy twice, Kim Kardashian West says her third time around using a surrogate is actually harder than being pregnant herself.
Yesterday Kardashian, 37, confirmed on the Ellen DeGeneres Show that she and Kanye West were expecting a girl. But more surprisingly, she told Entertainment Tonight that surrogacy is more challenging than she expected:
“You know, it is really different. Anyone that says or thinks it is just the easy way out is just completely wrong. I think it is so much harder to go through it this way, because you are not really in control. Obviously you pick someone that you completely trust and that you have a good bond and relationship with, but it is still … knowing that I was able to carry my first two babies and not my baby now, it’s hard for me. It’s definitely a harder experience than I anticipated just in the control area.”
Last year Kim shared on Keeping up with the Kardashains that she had placenta accreta during her previous pregnancies, where the placenta grows deeply into the uterine walls and doesn’t properly detach during birth. Having another baby, her doctors told her, could potentially lead to life-threatening bleeding during labor and delivery. Still, Kim insisted she wanted to grow her family — for which, of course, people shamed her. Ultimately, for her safety and her future child’s, Kim and Kanye announced this September that they were going the surrogacy route.
It’s great that she has been so open about her choice. Of course there will be doubters of a reality star and entrepreneur who lives in the spotlight. But women aren’t always open about fertility and health problems. It’s refreshing to see such a prominent figure talk so honestly about an intimate struggle.
What’s more, Kim has a point. It’s easy to assume that having a surrogate takes all of the work out of bringing a baby into the world. But ultimately, even if you’re not the person carrying your baby, you are responsible for ensuring his or her health — yet you don’t have control over what happens. While Kim and Kanye certainly have the means to make the experience vastly more comfortable for their surrogate, her health and happiness is ultimately out of their control.
The bottom line is, even though surrogacy can be controversial, and it's a long, expensive and painful process that might not be right for everyone, it is right for some people. And it’s great that Kardashian has taken a big step in making it less a taboo topic.
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