Ali Wentworth Talks The Importance Of Sex In A Relationship
If you're married or have been with your significant other forever, you know that being together for the long haul means being insanely comfortable around each other. And whether that means comfortable enough to try super-freaky sex moves or comfortable enough to choose wearing your retainer to bed over getting it on, well, that depends on the day.
But actress and author Ali Wentworth explains why the former is always a good decision. When it comes to long-term relationships, it's important to focus on the intimacy:
"I really believe you have your girlfriends to go to for some emotional support and you have your other friends that you can gossip with. Your long-term relationship, your husband or your boyfriend, is the one person you have intimacy with—that you have sex with—and to me that is sacred," Ali said during the Take Charge panel in New York City earlier this week.
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"And in any long-term relationship you need to make time for the physical aspect of it," said Ali. "You talk about it, you enjoy it, you make time for it, because it’s the one thing you have with that person that you don’t have with anyone else."
She's right: Research shows that the secret to a long and happy marriage is having more sex. Plus, aren't adult sleepovers one of the best things about being in a relationship?
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That said, it's not uncommon for your sex drive to occasionally stall, so there are a few things you can do to boost desire in a long-term relationship like using fun sex toys or trying a change of location (vacation sex is always a good idea). No matter what gets you going, it's important to make time to get intimate—and naked—in a way that you can only experience with your partner.
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