What His Favorite Sex Position Says About Him
This article was written by Arielle Pardes and provided by our partners at Men’s Health.
Sure, his favorite sex position is probably the one that gives him the best orgasm—but on a subconscious level, his go-to move also says something about his personality in the sack.
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Here, we explain what his main move says about his bedroom persona, and how you two can switch it up for more fun between the sheets.
THE MOVE: Missionary is like Sex 101: It’s the way we’re “taught” to have sex, and the way that we see it most often in rom-coms and TV shows.
Though this position is a classic, a missionary man might be a little insecure or “need reassurance by seeing his lover be responsive,” says sex therapist Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Neurolovology.
He may also be keen on having control during sex, as missionary gives him all the driving power.
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Since the position finds both people face-to-face, there’s some intimacy to it—but its basicness suggests the guy might not be confident about the other moves in his arsenal. “It’s romantic, but not very adventurous,” says Cadell.
SWITCH THINGS UP: There’s nothing wrong with loving the classics, but make sure you two take a walk on the wild side every now and then.
“If he can only climax during missionary, that’s a problem,” says Cadell, and he'll need to do some “reprogramming” to his sex life.
Try switching to woman on top, which has all of the same intimate qualities, but will let him relinquish some of that control—and spice things up.
THE MOVE: We’ve never met a guy who didn’t like doggy. This, some believe, is how man was meant to have sex.
A doggy-lover “taps into his territorial animalistic instinct as king of the jungle,” says Cadell, “but he also has fears of intimacy and is generally unromantic.”
After all, you probably don’t go for rear entry because you want him to whisper sweet nothings in your ear from behind.
SWITCH THINGS UP: You can get the deepest penetration from this position, but what you earn in depth, you lose in intimacy. To make up for it, spring for spooning every now and then.
He’ll still get to enter from behind, but the snuggly qualities of spooning sex will make your partner feel like a dime, rather than a piece of meat. (Want more? Check out the 45 Sex Positions Every Couple Should Try.)
WOMAN ON TOP
THE MOVE: The beauty of this position is that there are a million ways to do it—and it’s all up to you.
Men who love their women on the saddle are likely concerned with pleasing their partners. Cadell says this move shows that “he’s confident in being submissive, but he can also be dominant when he enables her to reach an orgasm with deeper penetration.”
Basically, he gets off helping you get off.
SWITCH THINGS UP: We get that he likes the view from down there (who wouldn’t?) but have him take control every now and again by flipping you over. You’ll appreciate the occasional shift in power, and the view isn’t bad from back there either.
THE MOVE: Given that spooning is most often associated with cuddling and sleep, it’s no surprise that this super-intimate position is the go-to for guys who have a soft spot.
But men who love the move aren’t saps, they’re “passionate and eager to please their lover,” says Cadell.
SWITCH THINGS UP: Everyone likes to experience the sweeter side of sex, and props to him for being a romantic. But you can still be intimate while igniting a little more fire into your sex life.
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While in the spooning position, have him reach around to stimulate your clitoris, or try a position like missionary where you can gaze lovingly into each others' eyes while penetrating even deeper.
THE MOVE: Pressed against the front door, hoisted onto the kitchen counter, or in the shower, you can have standing sex anywhere but the bed.
That’s why guys who like this position best are adventurous and often turned on by the idea of being naughty.
The standing man is a “mischievous lover who gets a thrill out of getting caught and wants to have as much fun as possible with little regard of the consequences,” says Cadell.
SWITCH THINGS UP: Novelty is part of what keeps your sex life hot, so don’t let yours simmer down by going to the same standing position time after time.
Vary up the locations you choose, or switch to doggy. You can stand or bend over a table to keep things interesting.