Forgiveness In Marriage – Quotes And Inspiration
Forgiveness quotes here might help if you are having a difficult time letting go of the resentment over being hurt and betrayed by your spouse.
Getting there and reaching that piece of mind that comes with forgiving for maltreatment and pain might be among the most difficult things that you achieved in your married life.
It also might take a fair share of time to do so. What is more, if you’re not ready to forgive but try anyway, you might find yourself forgiving the same transgression over and over again, starting each day with the intention to let it go. This is why forgiving in marriage needs to come as a result of a lot of deliberation, self-work, and, sometimes almost divine inspiration.
Here are some quotes (and a bit of psychological commentary along with them) that could help you on that path:
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers”.
This is a good quote to start with, as it could diffuse the anger a bit when you realize that there is always the second person and the fact that they might have also been hurt by something you had done in the past. You probably feel that you’re entitled to all the anger in the world because of what your spouse did (cheated on you, tricked you, lied to you, abused you, betrayed you in any of the thousand possible ways), and you surely are. But it will help you as well to think about the fact that he/she is still human, and someone who might have also been hurt by you in the past, probably to a lesser extent, but still.
"Once a woman has forgiven her man, she must not reheat his sins for breakfast"
This is why we said that forgiving doesn’t come easy and if you’re not ready, you should not be pushing yourself to forgive. Because if you do, you might find yourself starting every new day with the same resentment, one that is bound to eat away the relationship. Declaring forgiveness and then getting back to the old ways over and over again is unfair to you both.
"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness"
This quote probably speaks to us on two levels. One is the apparent love we ought to have towards our spouse in order to forgive them. But, as we implied earlier, to forgive our spouse, we need to have love and respect towards ourselves as well. If the betrayal caused the marriage to collapse, and love to go away, you still need love to be able to forgive. Love for yourself, and for humankind in general. As we all are humans, and all are petty at times, and all err. And once you tap into this profound universal love, you will find the peace and happiness Muller speaks here.
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong"
This quote explains what we already brushed upon – everyone can forgive, and everyone can be a strong person. But you cannot do it while in a fragile state. That is why trying to make forgiveness the starting point of your healing process is not a good idea because you’re up for additional frustrations when you wake up the next morning only to realize that you still feel anger, sadness, despair.
It is when you heal and use the experience to become a stronger version of yourself that you will be able to forgive. Moreover, when you do forgive, from the position of already being strong enough to do so, the forgiveness itself will make you even more powerful, because you won’t be like a leaf in the wind, left to its mercy, but an active creator of your world and experience.
Now, remember, forgiveness doesn’t come easy, otherwise there wouldn’t be so much talk about it. But it is a vital activity for your own sake and wellbeing. Forgiving doesn’t mean letting your spouse off the hook for their wrongdoing. Forgiving means regaining control over how you feel, and not being a passive receiver of whatever happens to you. Whether you decided to repair the marriage or to move on, without forgiving the spouse you are bound to continue getting hurt by the same issue every day.