Ordinary Women Open Up About The Porn They’re Watching
Porn isn’t just for guys. Girls can enjoy it too. I mean, of course, we’re hyper-aware of the suppressive and damaging side of certain porn out there, but we’re not talking about that. We’re saying that there is women-friendly visual erotica available – and it can be beneficial to your sex life.
Here, two ordinary women reveal the porn they’re watching…
“We really connected over erotic massage videos”
“I wouldn’t consider myself a regular porn watcher, but I every now and then, especially for some solo playtime, I like to watch short clips to aid with arousal. My partner and I have watched some videos together, but not that often, probably once every four or five months. The thing is, even though I’m straight and in a straight relationship, I don’t like watching straight erotica. What works for me is girl-on-girl oral sex. And my partner enjoys watching this with me.
“When I was first figuring out what I liked, I came across a site – and art project – called Hysterical Literature. It features women reading from a book while someone stimulates them below a table (not showed), until they reach orgasm. It’s hot!
“Something else I like – and have since realised is a thing – is erotic massage videos. My partner and I also really connected over this. We also have very real and open discussions about our sex life, what works for us, what we’d like more of.
“My partner also always makes sure I come first (and often more than once), so I feel like it’s really about me and not just him. We also respect that both of us masturbate from time to time and that it’s healthy and normal.”
“Porn definitely exists that is a huge turn-on for me”
“I’ve never been a solo porn watcher, but I’ve become way more open-minded and experimental since hooking up with my partner – who just happens to know his way around a woman’s body, and the porn channels…
“Porn can lead to some really great exploration. The nice porn, that is. And the good stuff is exactly what he shares with me. While I can’t tell you the exact names of videos I’ve watched or the sites they come from, I can say that porn exists out there that is a huge turn-on for me.
“Porn does exist that is not degrading for women – in fact, often it’s focused on her pleasure. And it’s not just stimulating – it’s also a fun way to get ideas around new things to try, a conversation-starter around what we do and don’t like, what each of us would be open to trying and stuff that’s a hard no. It has absolutely improved my sex life… and strengthened my relationship.”